How can we treat children with respect?

We can treat our children with respect by using discipline techniques that teach them self-control and responsibility.

How to Build The child's Self-Esteem:
  • Show children that you like them by smiling at them, hugging them and speaking to them in a positive way.
  • Read out loud together.
  • Use positive reinforcement to encourage responsible behavior.
  • Help them to learn responsibility by requiring them to complete tasks.
  • Set aside a time each day to spend with each child individually.
  • Help children to develop organizational skills by providing space for toys, books, schoolwork, etc.
  • Help them to discover their own special gifts by letting them develop an interest in activities such as sports, music, dance, drama, etc.
  • Encourage their independence.

Discipline Techniques that Work:
  • Following through with what you say    
  • Being consistent
  • Modeling, appropriate behavior    
  • Being firm yet kind/fair
  • Clearly stating expectations before child has engaged in undesirable act    
  • Giving a child a choice only when you intend to accept that choice    
  • Making the child feel worthwhile, liked and successful
  • Rewarding positive behavior and ignoring negative behavior (except when dangerous, destructive, or embarrassing)    
  • Removing child from the situation
  • Providing consequence for misbehavior immediately after undesirable act is performed    
  • Providing when/then statements: "When you have...then you may..."
  • Shaping non-existent behaviors
  • Providing if /then statements: "If you have...then you may..."
  • Abuse it/lose it    
  • Redirecting misbehavior

Discipline Techniques that Often Backfire:
  • Spanking (The Respite Program does not condone, nor will it tolerate, any physical punishment of a child)
  • Embarrassing
  • Humiliating
  • Taking away favored things
  • Punishing psychologically
  • Engaging in power struggles
  • Rewarding misbehavior
  • Giving in to undue commands
  • Allowing child to manipulate adult
  • Saying what you don't mean
  • Expecting child to read your mind
  • Allowing dangerous, destructive, embarrassing behavior to continue
  • Repeating commands
  • Pleading, begging
  • Ordering
  • Nagging
  • Labeling
  • Arguing
  • Threatening
  • Being vague
  • Fussing
  • Being inconsistent
  • Losing your cool
  • Making child feel guilty
  • Assuming they "know better"
 

Funding for this program provided by the Department of Health and Human Services